She has pretty much assumed a passive role (with the exception of grabbing my hand and ...). It would be nice if she were to really get into exploring her sexuality.
That is still a start Chrome and I know you know that, but just keep reminding yourself of that. It may not take long at all for things to really start clicking for her and then again, it may require a lot of your patience. Either way, I've been pondering the idea that it's a self esteem issue with her (thus burying her drive) as opposed to ND. Compliment what she does for you sexually, A LOT. Tell her how incredibly good at it she is. Build her confidence. There is a lot of merit in focusing on her pleasure as well and showing her that this is about more for you than just your own pleasure, but I'm thinking an equally important aspect is building her sexual confidence, which will in turn make her more willing to try new things and be more open with you.
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
