Just a quick note. The kinky comment was intended to be a joke, not a feeling that there was untoward behavior occuring.
And Brian, I do want to echo BF's comments. To awaken that passion in your W requires a lot of work with very little payoff for a long time, mostly on yourself. And when I say work on yourself, I don't mean just do whatever you want. There has to be some understanding of what women like in a man. I can't say that I am there yet, but I have been trying to get there for awhile. But you know, most of it comes naturally. When we shed all this silly culturally-based nice-guy crap and act like a man, women respond by being women. I know that wasn't very profound, but that's how I see it.
Tell you what, why don't you try this. The next time you engage in sexual activity, go down on her. Ignore her protests unless she gets truly angry. If that happens, have a frank, honest, open discussion about it right there. Don't apologize or placate, just be direct. She may still not go for it. She may get really angry or cry. Don't get abusive about it (I'm not really worried that you will), but let her know that unless she has a really good reason why you shouldn't do that, she shouldn't b!tch. So give her a chance to give her reasons, if they are stupid, say so.
I don't know, maybe that's too much, but that is how I've been handling things. Granted, I still haven't done oral, but that's not really the point. Getting her to open up her sexual desire and attraction for you is.
I hope that makes sense.
Chrome
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
