I agree Andy-maybe just do nothing although it goes against your grain as it does mine,but if that's what she wants then give it to her. You said she is worried she is having symptoms of her depession returning. Usually by the time you admit that your in full blown depression-no wonder she can't make decisions, and does not want to talk. She is confused-that's what depression is all about. I'm serious about the projection thing. I mean if she's depressed there is no way she is not going to project some of her negative feelings onto you. I've been there and done that so many times to my H. He never knows whats going on with me-he takes it presonally which is hard not to do-especially if she won't discuss it with you. Is she on medication? If she's been down this road before she knows she's got to take something-it won't go away, nor will most of the problems betweeen you while she is depressed. Even addressing them is overwhelming to her it sounds. Just love her-as much as she'll let you, and do nice things that help her out. You may have to sit tight-its her move. Rachael M.
