Ans. Can you have her write you a letter telling you what she feels needs to change? I mean she's pretty vague. I'm sure you know also things have got to change but do you know what needs to change for her? What about you? Letters are a good way of communicating if your W is willing. You can mull, and respond whenever. Might she be open to such an idea? I know it sounds trite, but it does not sound like communication is your forte right now, but youv'e got to connect at some level , somehow. Just an idea. I wish you luck-sounds like your in the dumps right now-a bad place to be. Remember, you've been there before, and things have brightened. Andy, what part is your depression playing in this? Think hard before you answer.We are blinded by depression to reality, and what is really going on around us-I mean its grim, but why is it grim? I know when I'm depressed I do alot of PROJECTING, and my H does not understand that so he percieves everything differently than me. Hang in there-are you taking your meds and enough? It really makes a difference-you know-you've been here before Andy. I'm really sorry things are hard for you now-I know you are the Master of looking at things from her perspective-can you at this point? DO you want to? I have no answers, I wish I did. This R thing is just too darn hard. Good luck, and know we are here for you! Rachael M.
