Andy, I loved it when you said you loved you wife as much as 1000 suns. It reminded me of the movie "Message In A Bottle" when he says "you were my true north". Maybe we get mad at your wife because we are envious-envious that she has someone that says such a beautiful thing and yet your R is, shall we say difficult at times. It's not so much I don't like your Wife as it is that I do like you. But...I don't know your wife, I've never heard her side except your perception of it. Another thing I would like to say is: NEVER say never. We are all HUMAN meaning we all fall way short of perfection and the control we think we have over oursleves and our emotions is just an illusion. I beleive given the right circumstances, the right amount of pain and the wrong amount of good judgement any one on this board could have an affair. This is MY truth. I was as true blue as the day is long, but it happened when all those circumstances came about. I still cannot beleive it. NEVER ME-NEVER. He(OM) Affirmed me so much in a time when I was so very needy I chose not to resist-felt like I couldn't, it felt like an addiction. Now, I'm on the other side of it with my H who I though NEVER would do something like this to me. No one that knows him can even begin to get ahold of how this happened, but it did. And now, like me he has to forgive himself like I did which is the hardest to do ever, and look at life and people differently now-not as judgemental. A place you can only be when you have been the unfaithful one. Knowing, oh how knowing how wrong it was, but yet it happened. DO you remember the movie The Bridges OF Madison County? When that movie came out I had had my affair and it was very difficult for my H to watch. Now....well, he would look at it fromhwole different perspective-still knowing that to cheart is wrong no matter what, but that it can happen to anyone. I know I'll get flack on this one. Rachael M.
