Quote: So you snooped. First off, I gotta say wow...
Sorry. I know.
Quote: the phone was left in such a place that you even had the opportunity to do that? Cool. Nothing to hide.
Wrong. She still leaves her phone in her car at night. Has ever since OM started calling her and it's one of the things that lets me know that it's VERY likely that at the very least, he still tries to contact her but the bottom line is that since she TOLD me he tries to call all the time, why not just bring the phone inside like she used to before all this? I mean if there is nothing to hide, and considering NOBODY she knows, including her parents, use our home phone to call her, then WTF?
Like I said. Wrong. She is still trying to hide it and I had to go into her car, into her purse and under some stuff to get to it.
Quote: History is right there on the phone. Cool. Not hiding anything.
Please don't think I am saying my W is not smart because I KNOW she is. She is one of the brightest people I know. She has 4 degrees and is wonderfully intelligent but when it comes to ANYTHING tech related, i.e. a very complicated phone, she is lost. I sincerely doubt she even knows how to access that list. I have tried to get her to see all that (really, I did that after the only other time I snooped, to prevent me from being able to snooping again) but she shut me down, saying that she didn't care and just needed her phone book and that was all. She didn't care about the rest of the stuff. So, that again proves nothing. I don't think she realizes that you can erase things from that list (actually I didn't know that either until very recently).
Quote: No cover up to get a babysitter. Cool.
Um, her cover is all the "DUI" stuff she can't do with the boys around. I have to also point out that this is literally the THIRD time in 6 years that we have had a babysitter in our house that is not related to us. For her to do this, it had to be REALLY important, and yes, if she needed to get her stuff done, than that counts. The problem I have are is that she has been CONSTANTLY complaining about our financial situation lately, even as of last night and yet she can justify spending 40-50 dollars so she doesn't have to have the kids waiting in line with her at the courthouse or when she pays a visit to her community service advisor to schedule an appt? Um, ok, I guess.
Again, could go either way, but I think my suspicion is justified.
Quote: Calls you to check in and you verify her story. Cool.
Yep, early on. Now it's been almost 2 hours and I can't get her on her phone. She SAID she would be in route now, on her way home...and this is a woman who gets SERIOUSLY bent when her parents or I don't answer our phones.
Oh, and the last time I talked to her (I called about something she said to remind her about), first of all, she didn't answer, and then when she did call back a few minutes later she had that fake "I can't talk freely" voice on yet she said she was just getting in her car to go to the next place.
Look, I AM paranoid. I freely admit that, but just because I am paranoid does not mean I am wrong.
I may have to have that talk with her tonight because I can't let this simmer.
Sorry. I know. 
