gh let me ask you a question! are you scared of your w, like if i say this what would be her reaction, would she leave, would she stay? im affraid that you are so scared of what your wife might or might not do that that you just continue to go as if. you are in a committed r with your wife right? she has told you that right. she has committed to you and your kids. then i guess i have to ask why are you affaid of talking to her about your marriage. it still needs fixed, and she is not really doing anything in regaurds to that goal. shouldnt you be asking yourself WHY? maybe you are, thats why you snooped. but my friend please dont be affaid of talking to her about your marriage, you have feelings as well and she needs to know those feelings