Mama, I really like you. Thank you for that piece of wonderful PMA.
I think you are right of course. That's why I am going to take back what I said. I DO regret snooping and I was my own test case to see if my new ideas about snooping held water. They do not. Snooping is bad. Period, no exceptions. Like shippd said, if you want to know something, ask them and if they lie, well, then they do, but what you get from them is likely to really tell you as much or more than snooping whether they lie or not.