I don't know where you got the idea that I didn't like what you said. I actually REALLY liked it. It was simply a matter of timing. I am at work and can't take the time to do what you were suggesting. Later tonight. That is a distinct possiblility. And if I liked your last post, I LOVE this one!
Quote: my state of limbo consummed me really bad, you know that, but me like you will sooner or later finally could not take it anymore.
The difference is that I don't feel I am anywhere near consumed by limbo. Right now, there is nothing to take...or leave. That's what limbo is and until I run out of things to work on with ME, then I will probably not be consumed by this state of being. That said, point taken. I WILL NOT do this forever, it's just I think I have a lot more in me.
Quote: so i had the talk with my wife, and i grew some balls and told her how i felt about this limbo, that i was not going to take it anymore, i told her i loved her, i value her openion, and she had every right to find her happyness. but i did also, and at this point i was not happy and i was not going to do this anymore, and you know what, IT MADE HER THINK, that possibly if she truly wanted this to work it was time that she started making it work.
I see your point here, and I think the time may come for some "ball growing" on my part, but I think my balls are fine the size they are, lol. I just wish someone would pla...er...sorry.
Where was I...
Shippd, you are right. IF she does not start DOING something, then I may have to have that talk. I just think that the issues in our life make it very possible that more time needs to pass and I am willing to endure that, and allow that to happen. I assume the FULL responsibility if that is the wrong approach.
Quote: is it your time to have that talk with her, only you know that, only you know how much longer you can do this. know what do you know at this point. 1)om has contacted your w 2)w has also contacted om. thats all you know. if you need to know any more you HAVE to ask her. if not then go on as if.
Yes, yes and yes. This is the part I like so much because you nailed it. Either fish or cut bait NOW. I know I have to make that decision VERY soon because to not do so would be to get caught up in the "what if" game and allow myself to be mired down by all this crap in my head. Thank you for your clarity.
