It's hard, I know. Your H just doesn't seem to get it. I know hewants to get it. Frankly, I think that right now, he doesn't have the capacity to get it.
I'm not sure why that is but it's very similar to what I'm going through right now.
There was a time when I wasn't giving my W the attention she deserved. I didn't get it either. I had to go through a nervous breakdown before I got my priorities straight. And now... I'm paying for it.