Have anotherr minute. Know I'm not giving much info here but the bottom line seems to be that having expectations of my h no matter how simple and reasonable they seem to me keeps breaking my heart. He keeps saying that he wants to be "in" this marriage and that making me happy is important to him but acting contrary to this. I can't really tell if it helps to talk because it does seem to help at the time then he claims to just forget what we've talked about. I find it excruciating to walk around with a heart that is constantly being broken so want my heart back. Perhaps the solution is to try as hard as I can to think about all the other things in my life, don't make any significant requests of my H (to prevent the heartache) and keep working with insignificant ones until or if I ever again I feel I can trust him. To me this is half a marriage and not how I want to live. Perhaps I could even tryto keep explaining the significant ones (it's hard for me to imagine, but I think he just doesn't undrstand) with the key being not to make any request--and having no expectation--just trying to explain. Could really use some input folks. How does this sound to you?
