Tiny bit of news. W and I were in the kitchen and the kids had just gone to bed. All night W's undies (the sexy little t-back ones) were hanging out all "teenager style" and it was KILLING me. I seriously doubt she was doing it on purpose, but I did make a few comments. Nothing rude, just that she looked HOT. As usual, my comments didn't seem to register at all. She just acted like she usually does; that anything I say in reguard to her being beautiful or sexy is a joke. Finally I just decided to let her know how that made me feel.
M: W, you know what? After all we've been through, one thing that bothers me as much as anything is that no matter what I say to you in terms of a compliment, you act like it's a joke. W: (Acts like she doesn't know what to say) No, I do take your compliments. It's just that you say that all the time. M: Because you look great all the time, but I get it. It just hurts sometimes to think that you don't take my view of you seriously. W: I do... M: No, I do get it, and I just wanted to tell you how I felt, and find out how YOU felt. I won't do those things nearly as much anymore. It doesn't work for either of us at this point.
She didn't really respond and shockingly enough (to me anyway) we just went on about our business of cleaning together for company tomorrow. No tension, no nothing. Maybe that's good, maybe not.
Now, I KNOW this is probably NOT about her taking my view seriously and probably much more about HER issues but I guess this was the tip of the R iceburg I got out first before the rest surfaces sometime soon.
Reading what was said, I think it was probably the wrong thing to say but it's done now and I don't plan on revisiting it anytime soon. If anything, I feel ok about finally being direct for once and not letting that stew in me. It bothered me, I told her so and moved on. Case closed.
