Quote: I don't want my kids to grow up thinking that a wife can allow her H to lie and cheat.
I'm going to argue semantics once again, but I think it's important to make the distinction that we don't "allow" our spouses to do anything. The role model I think we need to project is one of a person who won't allow themselves to remain static and passive when confronted with a situation like this. We want to be able to tell them that when they are confronted with issues relating to THEIR spouses and their spouses behavior, that it's entirely appropriate to establish boundaries and enforce them but not in an attempt to control THEM, but to control ourselves.
I wife CAN allow her H to lie and cheat so long as he knows that eventually HIS actions are going to lead to him not being her husband for very long once it's established that she will no longer remain in such a relationship.
