Well, I did it...kinda. I told you it would not be a pre-planed event, that it would come in the flow...and it did.
I was sitting at W's computer downloading her British soap that she likes to watch. She said something about me not doing something and I came back with "Yea, well what's up with you not doing 'other' stuff? She gave me the "look" that I get most every time I seem to be talking about sex or anything relating to it. It's a look like "You're being silly now." I swear, that's the look. No more serious than that. I turned arond in my chair to face the monitor, paused a second and turned back to look her in the eyes and said...drum roll...
"So, I have been trying to think of the best way to talk about this...So what's up with 'that'. Do you see the way things are as how it's always going to be?"
W turned around to face the sink, looking a bit uncomfortable. She then faced me and said "No." I responded "I know you are not happy with the way you look right now (she's been CONSTANTLY complaining about her weight) but I LOVE the way you look." and gave her a little smile.
That was it.
I don't know why, but between the body language and the directness of it all, it was all I needed right now. I believe her when she said no, and the WAY she said it conveyed that she knew what I was talking about (well, there was really no question about that) and had been thinking about it.
I am not mind reading, just willing to accept the power a LITTLE info may have in our sitch. I let her know that I want things to change and she let me know she did too.
I will still probably expand on the convo soon, but for now, it's a start. Honestly, I really didn't expect her to answer the question. I thought I would get an "I don't know" or some other excuse. A simple "No, it won't be this way forever" conveyed a lot to me.
