Quote: It is hard to want the affection and romance but I believe others are right when they say it will come with time.
I called a DB counselor 2 yrs ago and one thing I remember her saying (she was a WAW) is that once she got back with her H, it took her a year to have "feelings" for her H again. A year of doing things with him, holding hands, and other stuff I presume. She said it is very gradual but feelings do follow actions.
I have to tell myself that all the time as my H is not affectionate or he tries but I can tell his heart isn't in it. Have to remember not to push or insist on our needs being met yet I guess. Hard as heck!!
So keep focusing on you and H and doing things together. If OW pops in your head, envision a big red stop sign and stop the thought!! You have control over your thoughts!!
It's this kind of thing, as I have read from successful people around here, that makes me think that my REAL problem is impatience, NOT the lack of intimacy. The intimacy issues are probably normal in a sitch like mine, with a history like mine, but my impatience is NOT helping things any.
