There is certainly no harm in waiting a little longer to see if your W truly just needs a little time. But, at some point you really may need to just tell her point blank that your M has gone back to the way it was pre-bomb and that you did not want to go back to that sort of passionless M.
I'm not suggesting that you have a R talk right now. I'm just saying that Mama got a direct hit here:
Quote: When do you get to take care of your needs GH?
Certainly you should try backing off--and that means no back massages for your W if she's not going to reciprocate with any physical or emotional intimacy in return (and I don't mean ML.) Maybe you haven't given her a chance to miss you--perhaps she is very much taking you for granted.
I worry about your level of frustration GH. Especially as your W has said she expects you to be a mindreader and to initiate ML 100% of the time.
Maybe you should find a way to go away for a weekend by yourself. Your W can have a chance to miss you and you can take a break from the rollercoaster. If you can't get away to visit friends for a solo trip, maybe you can find a professional conference related to photography or running a small business. That way you could learn something and have a chance to get away.
