Hey gang, here's a rephrasing of one of my issues.
I want to try to stop the pursuer/distancer dynamic in my sitch. I KNEW, even before reading PM last night, that my pursuit of my W was a hinderance to our intimacy. The problem is that when I distance from her, and I mean even sitting on the other end of the couch, she almost immediately, directly either requests my closeness or calls me on why I am distant. WTH? She won't "let" me be distant without it being an issue, without me having to just come out and say "honey, I don't really feel like being close to you right now" but when I try to take things further than just "close" she shuts me down. I WANT to make her pursue ME but it doesn't last more than a few minutes before she is asking me to "pursue" her.
I am not really asking a question, more just venting. I know this "closeness" is good (I think) and I should just roll with it, but...well...I want more than that.
