I hear what you are saying about trying to let go and not being able to. We all have the same struggles it seems. My patience is running low and I just can't seem to feel better. Time to try something different. I am not sure what it is but I need to get out of this rut. It works best to just be her boyfriend and accept what happens. I don't really want her anymore and if I retreat a little those feelings might come back. She will either come back to me 100% or I don't want her back. She has sucked the emotional energy from me so I am done. I will let her chase me for awile and right now I don't even care if she catches me. It is her turn to "earn" me back.