Muddle, I responded to Mama and Stevie while you were posting but your post did a GREAT job of summing it up.
Quote: I think the lack of intimacy is not a problem anyway, it's your expectation and desire for it that's the problem, because you haven't been able to negotiate it into reality. So you have two options - 1. negotiate, beg, plead, manipulate the desired outcome or 2. genuinely enjoy what you have in the R now and build on these strengths until IT happens. The more happy you can be in the R, the more likely both parties will want to share that happiness in a physical way.
Amazingly simple way to look at it. I will do this best I can. Thank you all so much!!!!!!
