Stevie (and Mama), my C said just that, to just accept that things are already "alright" and that I don't need to fix them. She said that I was too focused on what I didn't have and needed to be focused on the positive changes I have made, and that have happened in my sitch.
The problem is that I know what our life was like before the affair, and we're right back there again. I can continue like this for as long as I need to but the problem is that I don't know how long that is. Is she waiting for me to DO something as OT often suggested to me? Is this just a test, for her to see if I am really this passionless man, willing to accept a sex-less marriage? If so, I am failing that test right now.
OR, is this just her taking the time and space she said she needed the last time we talked about all this about a month ago? Do I take her word that she wants all the same things I do but needs time to get back there, and time means time without constant pressure from me?
I agree Mama, we DO look desperate right now...and we are. I want to change that dynamic but I think in my specific sitch, most of that "desperation" is perception. I do not act desperate anymore but there have been SO many years of that behavior that I think it may take awhile for her to "get it" that I am not that guy anymore. I hope that's the case anyway.
