Alright, GH, it just dawned on me. This is so simple: you are focusing on the "problems" too much. You said it yourself recently. Focus on the great parts of your R - the parts that make you happy. Don't fix problems, the best that can get you is from a negative number to 0 - do you want a R at zero or at 10? Build on strengths.
I think the lack of intimacy is not a problem anyway, it's your expectation and desire for it that's the problem, because you haven't been able to negotiate it into reality. So you have two options - 1. negotiate, beg, plead, manipulate the desired outcome or 2. genuinely enjoy what you have in the R now and build on these strengths until IT happens. The more happy you can be in the R, the more likely both parties will want to share that happiness in a physical way.
“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it. ” – Albert Einstein
