GH and WCW, I too am tired of being frustrated and stagnant. If anyone from the outside were to look at my family they would think we were "normal". If they took a closer look, like in our bedroom, they would see that we definitely are not.
I too am a "fixer" and I believe this could be actually hurting our sitches. Your W and my H are getting the impression from us that something is wrong with them and we are trying to fix them, like we are perfect. We need to turn this around and actually "fix" us. Imagine how unhappy, unfulfilled and frustrated our spouses must have been (and probably for a very long time) for them to seek out an OP. We wanted a happy marriage as well as them. Let's focus on how we contributed to the "unhappy" M. This will force us to be completely honest with ourselves and look deep into our souls. Are ya with me?
