Hi Tbone,
Whenever we set a timeline to our expectations, odds are we will be disappointed most of the time (its just like playing the lottery). You had the expectation of hearing ILY last weekend, but one thing that has not changed from the start is that you are not in control of the timeline in which you hope to meet your goals - she is! It is a fact we have to come to terms with. Look at Andy ... it was two years he waited. Don't mean to get you down, but you need to regain the determination that got you this far. Best way is to avoid setting up a time line to achieve your expectations. It simply does work! Will you eventually hear ILY from your W ... if you continue with the progress you have made up to now, I certainly believe so! BUT nobody here can predict when. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other and you will get there...

I think the same is true about you not being happy at this point in R. It is your perception that you feel you should be happy with the way things are now, but you are still on the path of your journey of achieving a happy M. Again it is an expectation you have over a sitch you do not have complete control over. At the risk of sounding like a Hindu priest, you cannot achieve what is at the end of the quest during the midst of the journey and a long journey it is... First there is trying to get your S to come back to you ... then piecing ... then mending those pieces together ... etc ... etc ...

What you have taught me, Tbone, is to seek the glimpses of happiness one can grasp along the way, collecting them for a collage of memories we can look back upon one day and smile. This is what allows us to continue the journey.

My W and I have had a breakthru of sorts this weekend (one I have yet to post on my thread, wanted to reply here first), where she said she has been giving it much thought lately and is now convinced that we together will marry off our daughters, and enjoy our grandchildren. It just takes time for them to think it through and to trust what they feel is for real.

'til later,
KAW