T-bone, its gotta be normal to fel weird when a hange comes about so suddenly. I mean, you do think if they can change for the good so fast, then they can change the other way just as fast. That's our survival mechanism kicking in. No different than my H coing home and saying he'll be faithful and have no contact with the OW after a 2 1/1 yr affair. It's just darn hard to believe, but it happens everyday. In one day everything can change, for the good or the bad. It really was probably more gradual than you think-it's just that it's gotten really good lately. Like my H was probably ready to get away from the OW for a while before he actually did it but it was the one day he told her that matters. ITs like they take one step forward and then 2 backwards for a while the they take 2 foreward and one backward and then they start taking foreward steps with no backwward steps for awhile and we grow suspicious-it's out of character from what we are used to with them. We are always waiting for the other shoe to drop so to speak,because it always has in the past. Maybe just maybe it won't happen this time! Lets hope! Rachael M
