Rachael, I really think your missing Lily's point about the thongs! Lily REALLY ... REALLY ... REALLY ... LIKE to wear thongs. They make HER feel good. If Sage likes them too, then that is a very good fringe benefit. You need to focus on answering what makes Rachael feel GOOD and it can not be related to H. It is all about YOU. What can you do that makes you feel good about yourself. What can you do to have some fun? This has been brought to your attention several times, but I have not seen you post any answers here yet except that you may want to go back to school. Have you thought anymore about that? The more Rachael feels good about herself and is more lively and having fun, then the more your H will be interest in you! When you ask people here what should you do, they are telling you the answers are different for each individual, because only you know what will make Racheal feel GOOD !!! Is it thongs...? or is it boxers? The answers have to come from inside you and it has to be for just you!!!!!! Leave H out of the equation. But H will benefit big time too.. It really is a win - win proposition.