I havn't checked this thread for a while and I really appreciate your responses and advice. Things are at a very difficult place for me now. Me and my wife both agreed that she should have no contact w/ OM, but she has had limited contact with him over the past week for different reasons, all of which she has told me about up front. I don't like the contact, but at least she is being honest with me. Also, naturally I am very eager about OR, but she is still very distant and withdrawn. She wants me to slow down and back off a little, because she says she wants to take things slow and let her feeling for me come back naturally. So I am trying to give her what she needs. It is not easy though. She told me I am being to anxious and she feels like I am pressuring her to have feeling that she doesn't feel comfortable having for me yet.(?) I want to do what ever is neccessary for us to have the best chance possible, and I am trying to hear what she is telling me and respect her needs. We have an appointment to start with a conselor that come highly recommended from a friend. Our appontment is tuesday. Hopefully she will be able to help us both find our way back to each other in the most positive and healthy way possible. I am trying my best to stay focused on the long term and ignore my short term needs that may push her away again. This is very hard, but I am trying my best to stay focused and strong for us.
