I hope it lasts forever for you! SOunds like working together and just hanging out is doing wonders for you M. Now, don't get mad at me if I sometimes backslide-I am going to TRY and not dwell. Yesterdayand today are good. I have alot of time on my hands so that does not help much for the dwelling issue, but I am no where near ready to go back top work. At least not there. I'd love to work from home, but don't know what I'd do. I excercise likek crazy so I don;t gain weight back. I got dwonto where I wnt to be and I want to stay that way so I cna make him eat his heart out everytime he sees me in something sexy. The OW wasn ot sexy AT ALL-she is 6 yrs oler than me and short and kind of dumpy. Just goes to shw its not always about looks but about how that other person MAKES you feel. He knew all along though that he did not want to be with erh log term-as in marriage. At least he told me he never stopped loving me. That's a good thing to know. I hope your wife an tell you sometime soon how she feels. I can't imagine living in a loveless marriage and it sounds like she is warming up maybe enough to take that chance of being vulnerable enough to tell you how she really feels. My borthday is thursday and Adrain asked me last night what I wanted to do forit. I really hadn;t gien it much thought. ALl I coud think back to was it was just cople of months after my birthday last yr that he moved out. WOW, alot has happened since then, and I know this one will be better. there is not this cloud hanging over us, with me wondering what the heck is wrong with us. H. just stopped in to say Hi and then he was off, back to work. I wish he'd attack me or something-we used to do that during the day when no kids were at home but he is so busy right now so maybe one of these days soon.....I want it all back. I'm like you T-bone, I don't want to settle fro anything less than what I really want. It was that way before betwween us and I really think wer'e getting therer again. FINALLY. I posted to Matilda my sitch to see what she thinks of it all. Lily says our sits are aot alike except my H is not having an EA-will be anxious to hear what she says. See ya! Rachael M.