I'm sure you could take her Xue - I am sure that I could take her but then she would cry boo-hoo-hoo to H, and I would be the bad guy... So, don't think I would go that route. I did sometimes think "how would I react if I were to meet her??"
that he misses you Cat03 - Yeah.. it's nice.
Did get "Love You" last night and today too. He has called twice each day.... The last time he called, he sounded a bit weird. I know that I shouldn't have but I texted "you sounded weird. Should there be a cause for concern?" H texted back with "Line was bad. Stop worrying!".. So, I guessed things are okay still...
My mom is here in Country X for a visit. She arrived a day after H left for his work trip.. H actually asked me what my mom thought about our house, and if mom liked it. I guessed the positive that I see here is that H wants to get back into her good books.
Oh yeah.. H offered to buy the air tickets too..but mom had already purchased it herself.. So, do think that H is trying to "please" the in-laws..
Quote: boo-hoo-hoo to H, and I would be the bad guy
Yeah bummer about that. Oh well, just knowing you could is good
The other night some drunk idiot grabbed my hand and kissed it and when she said "Hey watch it buddy, husband right there" he did it again. Although I have an amazing amount of control it is amazing how much it raises my ire. Wouldn't take a lot to set me over the edge these days when it comes to my wife. Normally I'm a pretty passive guy but I've noticed that lately that's more of a choice than a condition.
Quote: I did sometimes think "how would I react if I were to meet her??"
I've imagined walking up to OW at work as she's coming out of a meeting looking very professional in her suit...nice hair... make up... and me drenching her with a bottle of whipped cream or throwing a Lemon Merange pie at her head.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
Quote: Although I have an amazing amount of control it is amazing how much it raises my ire. Wouldn't take a lot to set me over the edge these days when it comes to my wife.
Xuesheng, I think those feelings go both ways. I've seen my husband get very jealous since the whole separation/divorce thing.. and previously he was NEVER jealous. It's interesting how feelings on both sides (WAS and LBS) can grow in intensity.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
Am sure would like to scream at ow, disgrace her etc etc.. but then all attention would be at me...People would be wondering who is MAD CRAZY woman is... So, the opposite would be what I would do. I think I would (if I could maintain composure) is to walk up to her, say HI with all dignity and politeness, and then go about my own business... WHAT you say?
Journalling.. H came back yesterday (Wed). He went directly to the office. Sent him a notti text. He didn't reply, until he was in the car heading home... Called me on the phone.. and then when he got back, we had a quickie... as I had to cook dinner and all...
Later, H was resting (jet-lagged and tired from long plane flight from USA to Asia.. or so he says???!!??) and when I went up to him, he was like "go away.. go do your own things.. I wanna rest"..in a jokey laughing way.. I have to say that I had my doubts about things but he was kinda jovial that I didn't take offence.. So, I stayed on my side of the bed and read. H rested a little bit more, and then went out of the room.. Didn't know what he was up to..but charged into the room later..and announced that he has fixed the DVD Player (earlier..we had a DVD stuck in it and it couldn't open nor close properly), he had swapped the amplifiers from upstairs to downstairs etc.. and then asked me to join him downstairs for some music.. which I did.. We were in H's TV room for about half hour, listening to music and all..Was nice.. Fooled around alittle bit, and then we went upstairs for bed. We did it again and then went to bed..
H overslept this morning.. and dashed off to work the moment he woke up.. I did text him with a THANK YOU for purchasing the Bose for the Living Room.. made the house more lively..not so quiet..and H did text back happily.
Oh.. Two days ago,.. H called me about 4.30 am my time.. Jolted me from my sleep.. all he wanted to say was that he bought me a new Tod's Wallet.. When he gave it to me yesterday, I said thank you..but I supposed I didnt' show TOO much excitement (I am not really into designer stuff ..) as he asked "you don't like it?". Of course I have to answer "I Love it!"... I think I need to enhance some oscar performance to show my appreciation for things that he buys for me... He bought me loads of Magazines too!! How do I show him that I appreciate his gesture by not sounding toooo fake??? Any advice??
The male ego is a very delicate thing (not that the female ego is not.) Anyway, I have learned to praise my H for any gift he gives me. The important thing is not the gift itself, but that he is thinking of you and wants to make you happy.
Just look into his eyes and say thank you and tell him how much you love him. I'm not very good at faking emotions/responses myself and I find this trick seems to work.
