Things are pretty good with H and I. I've managed to not bring up ow at all in our convos, and thus have not had any fights in weeks...which is good. Really really have to banish ow out of our R.
Been keeping myself pretty busy.... meeting friends and all. Didn't realise that my calender was full until H pointed it out.. Had really quite a full week.. been continuing with my GAL after all.
Most times, H has been rather good and attentive. When we first got back together, I sort of told him that advice from books indicated that the betrayer has to "report" his whereabouts to the betrayed spouse and he was like "I am not going to report my every single move blah blah blah"...But I think sub-consciously, he may be doing just that. For example, he was going for Karaoke with clients this evening which he told me 2 days ago. He came home from work, changed and then left. Then I got a missed call not long after. Texted him and ask him what he wanted. He called me back with "nothing. Just wanted to tell you that I'm at the joint now". He does call me a couple of times whilst at work, to check up on me and to tell me things like "having lunch now at XYZ with PQR" or "going for a meeting at ABC" etc. So, he is kinda "reporting" right?? I was having lunch with a friend, and H called me a couple of times and my friend actually commented "your husband is so free at work? Called you so many times!" So, I guessed this is a BIG positive.
One thing that I do keep thinking is IF H is talking with ow nightly... I know I know...BANISH that thought. I know he still talks to her, he told me so. But how often, I don't know. He did tell me that he removed her from his IM list. (which to him is a BIG deal). Of course I would love for him to TOTALLY STOP contact with her...but he says she is still a friend. I don't want to PUSH cause we will probably fight over it. So, I don't ask, I don't query. Hopefully, in time, he will find less and less reason to have any contact whatsoever with her. Best if ow finds another man to hook on and leave my H alone. Currently, she still calls him.. I wonder why???? TO piss me off?? Oh well...whatever..she's not worth me thinking to much.
H and I will be celebrating our 10th anniversary on the 20th. He asked what I wanted, and I said "nothing. just expect a bouquet of flowers and your proclamation of undying love" and he said "I've always loved you. Never ever said that I never love you". Almost said something sacarstic in reply, but bit my tongue... and then said "well, am expecting at least a bouquet of flowers".
So, in short...things are positive. Have to continue with my GAL and stop thinking about ow. In time, she will diminish in H's mind.
