Quote: H kept on saying "get it into your thick head that you are here now!!" He's fed up of me interrogating him..Well. I did. I asked if she was gonna meet him there etc. I know I know..I have to BANISH the b!tch out from our M and not to mention her again!!!! We always argue when I have my insecurities.
I have to tell you something interesting I've learned about this. There's power in another's insecurities. For so long I was the jealious one worried about my husband having another affair, looking at other women, etc...
Even through I didn't have an affair my husband had another one recently and filed for divorce (mostly from guilt and shame rather than any feelings for the OW).
During the divorce (and this is after 21 years of marriage and never looking at another guy!!!), I went out with girlfriends in separation and divorce. I met a ton of guys and there were many who wanted to date me (which I didn't do because I planned to wait until after the divorce was final before I considered starting any relationships). My husband realized this, learned that I'm actually the more social out of the two of us and I'd probably be the one to "find someone" before he did (even through I didn't care!!! I would have gladly waited for him to "find his happiness" as I used to tell him).
Anyhow, he decided he didn't want a divorce afterall so we stopped it and are back together. Interestingly I now seem to be on the "other side." My husband seems to be the insecure one worried about me meeting people!!! It's kind of fascinating to experience both sides of this dynamics.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
