oh honey, I totally understand, had a blow up myself recently, issues and so many questions still lingering in my brain.
How about this, write down what's really eating you, then right down how confronting him will make you feel better/bring you closer.
I should be following my own advice too, I have this issue eating me and will bring it up BUT thank to some great posts to my sitch I won't begin with accusatory tones (read Sven's answer to me) because it causes my H to shut down. Then again, right now, I must make up my mind to ACCEPT when he shuts down, pushing it just make my H go back farther into his cave.
Don't throw the OW on his face anymore, I now it hurts (again, read the latest threads to me on my latest posts) but it must be put behind you, I've almost have, even those dreadful mental picts, I see them in a new light.
If you feel like you are going to loose it just say it to him "you know what, I'm feeling pretty awful right now, I need to work on getting things out of my system and I need to calm down, we'll discuss this later." Do yourself a favor and go on a walk, talk to someone THEN reply. I don't blame you, in my anger I also told H that the door was there if he wanted to go, of course I didn't mean it but I said it out of anger.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
