VJ and Cat - thanks for dropping by and sharing your thoughts.
Men don't see things the same way we do, This is soooo soooo true. I don't know why sometimes he can be so blase about things. Especially our finances.. our visas for the relocation etc etc.
you need to create some new happy times with him now to carry you through this together. Am trying! Am trying! But this impending move is giving me cold feet and I've been "voicing" it to H. Plus the removals of our household stuff has a little hiccup which is giving me some stress!! But H has been quite good in a way. He'll say "please don't be conflicted. Things will be okay." and to the removals hiccup, he'll say "Don't be stressed up. I will sort it out, ok?" So, I should not be so tied up to all these and let the thing flow ....
I see many, many positives that maybe it's harder for you to focus on because you are right in the middle of it, and because you've had such a hard time for so long Thank you for telling me, reminding me that there are MANY positives!! I need to see positives and not be sucked into the mundane things.
I wouldn't question what he will do with OW stuff. Let him handle it. If it does end up in your house, quietly get rid of it - end of story. Errr... too late. We are moving into a new house (in Country X) and H mentioned that I should start moving some stuff over.. and I sort of asked about ow's stuff..and I HAVE to move those?? He said that he hadn't been back to our home country to give her back her stuff...And guessed what?? he said that he has a set of dining table and chairs that belongs to ow in the store, and he was thinking of putting it in the terrace of our new house!!! I don't know... I know he doesn't CLING to ow's things per se but more of "can use it, why waste it" mentality. I am also kinda like that.. I won't throw it..but probably when we move in, I might trade-in with something that would be MINE!!
also had a thing that bothered me dealign with addresses, my H hasnt; yet change his addressI have not brought this up.. and I don't want to . Not yet anyway. But looking at it...he is quite blase about these things anyway. To him, it's a small thing and he will brush it aside. So, not gonnna start a war from this thing that he deems unimportant. My H is really very very blase about things.. I just found out medical receipts on the table that I gave him months ago. He could get it reimbursed by his company and yet he didn't do it. It's not alot but still money!!
Okay... On positive notes... I came over to Country X on Sunday and H was like "you'll love the new house. I am sure of it".. and yes. he was right. i do love the house.
And H did wear his wedding ring when he picked me up at the airport. But it was kinda tight and he was sorta saying "put on weight. put on weight. can you get the jewellers to enlarge it?" and I have to say that it was kinda tight on his finger
H's more attentive. I got a peck and a hug when he got me from the airport. We had dinner with my mentor (who so happens to have come to Country X for some business) and he (my mentor) said that he could see that there were still strong affections between H and I. I guessed this is GOOD! H did put his arm around me more ...
Actually...H just called from work. Gonna pick him up later... gotta go now.
