I would love to see a C jointly but she refuses. This would be admitting to the world that she has faults and her ego couldn't take that. I believe she actually knows her behaviors are wrong but she can't stop them and can stay in denial if she doesn't address them. I am no psycologist but that diagnosis sure seems to fit.
Sorry, but I am still very angry today. Mostly at myself though. I am having a very hard time with acceptance and not getting resentful for her behaviors. I could accept the hurtful things she has done if she completely stopped the deception. I know it doesn't work like that though. About monthly I restate my position and feelings because it builds up in me. Hopefully someday she cares enough to consider my strong feelings. I know our success is up to my acceptance of who she is and that is my biggest struggle right now. I want to succeed but I am also feeling more deeply the pain she caused me and getting tired of her lies. It is a little bit of desperation that is making me try to shorten the "long, hard" road by trying to "show her the way".
Her actions for the most part are in a very positive direction and I need to find a way to let go of my controlling nature. I have been this way for almost 32 years so it will definitely be a challenge.
