I am having an anxiety day today even though my W and I went through her latest business phone bills and there doesn't seem to be any inappropriate calls made. Just one of those days. She was telling me about a meeting she needs to attend tomorrow night and because of my mood I was a little hesitant which she noticed and gave more details about it. I called her back to tell her that I appreciated her honesty and I was sorry for making her feel like she had to give more details. I also thanked her for not calling her "friends" like she used to do. I think she is coming aroung so even on a day when my trust is low I gave her positive reinforcement for her changes. This sure did work out better than asking a lot of questions and making accusations. We need to use pos. reinf. whenever we can with our SO. Is she still lying? I don't know but if she is lying, me commenting on her honesty will make her feel rather guilty. However if she is indeed truthful, she is getting recognition for it. Finally a win-win sitch instead of lose-lose. Wow, do I learn slowly.
I am tormenting myself today by not trusting so I will stop now. I can't wait for the day when this crap is so far behind me that the slightest thing doesn't bring it to the surface so easily.
