MATTIE...I have discovered over this past year that sometimes it is better to go with your "feelings". It's kind of hard to explain to people. When someone asks "how can you trust him?" How do you know he is being truthful this time",I'd have to say "I JUST FEEL IT IN MY HEART!" I remember the things you talked about in earlier posts. I know you had certain feelings about things and they proved to be right. So now you feel that he is finally "getting it" and he is finally "really with you"...GO WITH IT!!!! He is really showing you that he is serious this time about really getting the help needed. You know that there are still going to be times when he is going to "get down" and he is going to feel tired and even stressed out. Even though he has brought all this on himself it is still hard for him to deal with by himself. You are showing him that you are beside him all the way,you have shown him the strength and resiliency of your love for him. Yes,you still have some issues you need to deal with and I know that you have at times had to put that on "hold" in order to deal with your H's troubles. I think inreality you have done everything you can for your H..the rest he has to do for himself. All you can do is continue to love him, assure him that you are there for him and allow him to talk things out with you when he needs to. You are doing a tremendous job of being there and really listening to him. But on the other side of the coin...he needs to assure you that HE is there for YOU!! He needs to really LISTEN to you when you feel the need to talk about ANYTHING!! Yes,you both have work ahead but I believe with my whole heart that you 2 are MEANT TO BE and you WILL MAKE IT!! It will take time and you may have times when you are bone tired and may even want to throw up your hands and quit,but keep your eye on the PRIZE that will be there at the end of your struggles...A HAPPY,LOVING LIFE TOGETHER!!!! I will keep those prayers going up!! PAT
