Mattie-I think its wonderful how your H is taking the responsibility to sit down with your sons and explain to them what he's dong and letting them air thier feelings about it. That is a healthy way to handle it. My H as far as I know has not talked any more about the A with our kids. He says he knows he should talk to the youngest one (16),but I'm sure is so ashamed that it is hard. He did talk to all of them after I found out. He cried with my daughter. I thaink he will talk to them at some point-I think he is dealing with his own pain and shame so much now he odes not know what to say-just show them by being faithful and loving to me. He just is not a talker. In C the therapist told us the importance of not "sweeping" this under the rug. I know he just wants to forget it ever happened and wants me to forget it too, but has said he knows that it will take time for me to trust him again. I do know that I have to get into life again. Not with that job though. I hated it so much. I am going to use my disability leave until its over either in sept or Oct and then go back to school in the spring to become an LPN. I always loved school and it will really give me a focus and I will be doing something I love and feel worth my itme and energy. <y job sucked everything I had out of me and it was so bad on top of what I had to deal with here with the A. I was so afraid I'd be left and have to stay in that job. Getting my nursing degree will help ensure that if he ever does leave I will at least be doing something that I don't dread getting up for every morning. I think he's ok with supporting me while I go-I have stock money I can fall back on if I need to. I'm so happy for you and that your H is doing everything possible to make good on his word. These are good men underneath-we know that or we would not fight so hard to keep our M in tact. Rachael M.
