Kinda had a lightbulb moment when I was talking to my mom. I wanted to get some opinions.
It occurred to me that when H dropped the bomb about his A last October, I immediately started reassuring him that I wanted to work things out, didn't want him to leave, and that I wanted to keep all of it from the kids, friends, family. Basically, I think I gave him free reign to continue the EA!! I was doing all the work in trying to repair the M. He still had his little bimbo to stroke his ego when the going got tough at home.
I think that with the discovery of the EA, he realized I was finished with my part as an accomplice to his crime. I was no longer going to enable him to continue his addiction. Once I started telling people and telling him to leave, he realized it could really be over and he made the decision to be 100% committed to OR. He knows the ball is pretty much in his court now, and I believe he's finally ready to do the work he needs to do.
