Emily, you need to seriously take everyone's advice here and STOP! Your H, IMHO, is trying. We should all be so lucky. STOP pushing him away. Could it be the reason he wants to stay with his mom is it is easier than staying with you. Have you read DR? You need to "act as if" 24/7. If you are loving and nice one minute, then angry and mean the next your H is not going to believe that things can ever change. He know what he did was wrong. He is trying to change but you continue to make him feel bad about it. STOP!!! Get a grip on yourself, please!