Thank you!

I never looked at any of it that way.
You're right . . .

I guess that I when my H calls tonight I'll tell him that we are done.

I can't fix myself. . . I can't fix those things that you showed me. I knew that I had issues (I have since I was 4 or 5 and I kept pushing that I knew didn't belong with my family so they finally told me I was adopted at 7 or 8.) but I didn't realize that it was all my fault the marriage crumbled!
I can't fix myself. . .
Thanks again guys . . . thanks for trying with me.