quote:I've just returned from a marathon conversation with my mom. She is devastated, but she is there for me. She wants a one on one with my H. Boy, I don't know about that. She can be a mean old bird. I asked her to try and think of him as being sick and to try to muster up some compassion for him. She said she just wants to hear what he has to say and let him know how this has affected them (my mom and step-dad). Yikes!!
Don't let it happen, Matilda. The problem is between YOU and YOUR HUSBAND, and needs to stay that way.
Any kind of "talk" from the extended family can do more harm than good, and he doesn't need that kind of pressure-it could cause him to backslide and/or run away totally.
I would NOT allow his family, nor my family to talk to my husband at all, because I was warned the same way I'm warning you.
So, although it caused hard feelings, I told both families to back away and leave us alone, we would work this out on our own. And, for a time, I went DARK on both sides; not initiating contact; instead, concentrating my energies on our marriage.
When he is totally out of MLC, he may want to talk about it with his family or yours-but that time can come later, not now, and that would be HIS decision, not yours.
You want him to stay, not run, so this thing can be worked out, and the less interference, the better.
