Old ship sunk New ship being built

[Holly06]

Hi there,
I am still posting on MLC, b/c it seems like more of what I need. TJ and I are in the beginning stages of ending our marriage, an outcome I expressly do not want, but will not stand in his way. He is taking the reponsibility for this choice.
The road for me will take me to this forum I believe. It is not over till it is over, but I am prepared for this D. I believe TJ will not hit the bottom until this is a done deal. That is where my best chances are. But I have been planning how to stay in touch with him. He is moving out of state in 2 weeks to start a new job, after leaving his last one that lasted 26 years, the lenght of our marriage.
I will send him funny stories. About my job (I am a Kindergarten teacher). I will invite him to leave the cold of Detroit behind and meet me in Aruba. Lets' quit our jobs and open a dive shop. We will both be good with customers, and he is a terrific business man. I will think of some cute other atribute for me. Maybe I will suggest I am getting good at sex apeal, and flirting with younger men.
How about flattery? Can you help me with this problem? you were always better at handling this kind of thing than I was.
Friends. Distant but loving. Cute and funny. Draw him/or her in. A good neighor kind of relationship. That is how I plan to build a new and improved ship for sailing into a committed,loving relationship.
Holly