You are absolutely correct in your assessment. My H does not know what real love is -- although he professes to love me very much. Maybe a better way to look at it is that he doesn't know how to receive real love. He does not feel worthy of anybody's love so it is easier for him to accept love from unworthy people to feed his deep desire for love.
In our conversation yesterday, we pretty much went over this same stuff. He also admitted he does not know how to be happy. He stated he doesn't even feel he wants happiness so much as he needs to find peace with himself.
Yes, this man is ripe for counselling. Fortunately, I will not have to badger him about seeking help. Now that our best friends know of the situation, they will do the badgering for me. It is a big step for him to really want help, though. It's a big step for him to admit that he really needs help.
I need to find that peace that I was feeling a short while ago. I need to relax and believe that he is finally at the point of starting his journey towards peace and happiness. I will wait for him to catch up with me.
