Your last post makes me smile. I noticed something different.
There was NO little Matilda!!! Good work handling this crisis w the adult Matilda in charge.
You have learned one of those lessons that Hurting Badly talks about. (If you don't get it right, you have to repeat the lesson).
Now, does your H really GET IT that there are boundaries that must be kept. That's his lesson. You can't be the mom about this and stay on him about it either. It's his integrity to himself that needs changing. He has to figure out what his lesson is.
"Passionate Marriage" talks about how when wedding vows are exchanged we promise to love, honor, and obey (respect) the spouse. Some of 'em feel pressured to be monagamous because they have to (promised the wifey).
This book maintains that during the ceremony each person should tack on "and I promise to hold onto myself (vowing to be monagamous to one's own integrity)".
This puts monagamy in the focus on the individual's sense of integrity and not making it some rule that has to be obeyed.
Mattie, I'm glad that you didn't fall into the pothole behind that bump in your road. Good work, Lady!
