((((((MATILDA))))))..I wish I knew what to say to you!! All I can do right now is offer you my love and support. I'll be here when you need to vent or just talk to a friend!! I know right now you are hurting deeply and thinkgs are looking dark. It's hard to understand why your H has done this and I honestly don't blame you for calling her (don't blame you for checking his VM either..after all he has given you every reason not to trust him!!). You had started focusing on YOU before so keep that up!! YOU have to take care of MATILDA and do what is best for YOU!! I know the children are hurting too and they are probably confused and at this point not even sure what they feel for their dad. They are old enough to understand what is happening and what he has done to you and to the family but it is important to not say nasty things about your H to them. They know wheta an A** he has been at this point!!Everything I have ever read says that even though you are bitter and in pain and want to call your H every foul name in the book...do it away from the children. I wish we lived closer together...we'd go out and get DRUNK!!!! Hang in there hon....YOU ARE A CLASS ACT and A TRUE LADY and YOU DESERVE BETTER THAN YOU ARE GETTING!!!!!! Take care of yourself and know in your heart that you did everything possible to make a go of things and it is your H that destroyed it all!! MY THOUGHTS & PRAYERS ARE WITH YOU!!!!! I AM HERE IF YOU NEED ME!! Email me if you'd like (pfroglady@aol.com)!! PAT
