I know, long time no hear from....I didn't drop off the face of the earth (go see Ultreya's thread).
I am sorry to hear about the libido thing, I thought it was just me. My H used to not be able to get enough of me. That slacked off when the kids were born-we both chalked it up to being too tired (which it was), he also has on-going chronic back problems (life-style from being Airborne Ranger) so we chalked it up to that (and I guess it was that too). Now I'm wondering, here of late, if guilt is at work on him....not that he'd ever tell me. H is the kind of guy that wouldn't say sh1t if he had a mouthful. Thank for the insight there. Or am I too sensitive? He did just get the Big-V about 10 weeks ago.....or was that guilt too? Course, even if it was, I'm taking that one after what I went through during child-birth....his turn!
As for your plan, it sounds good to me, but just be careful on how much of a kick in the butt it could give him. It may be too much. I sure wish I had the guts to have done that-or could still do that....but he has NO idea that I still entertain the idea of D (fleetingly tho)(is that a word?). I pretty much caved straight away. At least that's how I see it. I disappointed myself in that one. But because I never had to explain a separation to my kids, I don't regret it.
Anyway, yeah, I ask myself if I love him, really love him, or just stay out of guilt. He says he loves me, often, as do I....I guess far as he's concerned, "alles klar" (sp?) but it's still nothing like it used to be...but then what ever is? Everything changes. Change is perpetual. (that's too deep...I'm too tired to elaborate....)
Anyway, just wanted to say that I'm still thinking about you....and everyone else too....
L
p.s. it's 0400 here, been up all night-H is TDY-have to get some sleep, will try to log in tomorrow and get around to a few others I want to drop in on......
