Rachel...My H met OW when he was out of town on a golf trip. He was very depressed and unhappy and went out with some of the guys to a club and he danced with some women and I guess struck up a conversation with this one particular one. They stayed in touch by email for about 6 months before he ever went back to where she lived (a "golf"trip he told me). The PA began then (Nov.2000). He saw her once that month,twice in Dec. and once in Feb.2001. (these were "golf" trips too ha-ha!!)Anyay I discovered the A in March of 2001 and he called her with me on extension and broke off the R. Told her he had never stopped loving me and still loved me and wanted to work on our M. He did however,stay in touch with her by email (because he said he felt bad he had used her and hurt her and when she asked if they could be "friends" he thought it would be ok and wanted to not hurt her anymore...DUH-H guess he never thought that if I found out I'd be hurt more!!). I found out and told him to decide what was more important...being "nice" to her because he felt bad about hurting her or our M!!..told him I could NOT deal with her being in his life in ANY WAY. He stopped and I have had no reason to believe he has had contact with her since (no more "golf" trips to her area [Wink] !!) Things are really going great with us!! We are going away this coming Sunday for a couple of days to celebrate the 34th anniversary of our 1st date!!

Matilda....what's happening? Haven't heard from you in several days. Hope you are doing ok!! Let us hear from you!!