You made a LOT of sense!! It sounds like you are doing all the right things and headed in the right direction!! I am so PROUD of you!! You have really worked at your M and I think that down inside your H knows that you are special and I honestly believe he loves you,cares about you and admires you!! ANY MAN WOULD!!!! I totally agree that I had to assume some responsibility for the condition our M was in when my H decided to cheat. But just because I had made some mistakes,he didn't have the right to turn to someone else!! He was unhappy but so was I...difference was I didn't try to escape the problems or try to gain a little happiness with AP!! I tried to explain to my H that I could and did forgive him because I do love him UNCONDITIONALLY!! I honestly don't believe he really understands that concept but that is his problem. As for me,I will continue to love him unconditionally and do what I can to show him. We too started back doing the "little things" we had stopped doing and that made a BIG difference in our R. You just keep doing what you are doing Matilda!! You sound good and you sound like you have found the key to your happiness. I think about you often and check everyday to see if you have posted. Take care and I will keep you and your H in my prayers!! Your freind,Pat
