My H fell out of love with me, well he won't even tell me for how long. This from a man who frequently told me ILY up until he dropped his bomb in feb. I always had that tingly feeling for him. I think I always will. We are still married. For 19 years now. Never separated. No OW. I took him for granted and abused his love for me. I became a real bitch to live with. He never knew what mood I'd be in when he got home from work. No way for a husband to live. He nearly D'd me. Said he decided not to so that our 2 teenage sons wouldn't have to go through that. Could have been originally out of guilt I guess because he didn't want the kids to be divorce kids. Not because he wanted to start over with me. Such pride. I guess he had to save face at that point. I said I didn't want to live in an affectionless/loveless M. He said he wanted to work on that. He is demonstrating baby steps. I have decided to become the wide I should have been for years. In fact I'm trying to be a girlfriend to him more. DB'in techniques work. I can't help feeling that one day he's going to say to me that he can't do this anymore and wants out for good. that's my insecurity. But I try to have a PMA at all times. My goal is for him to love me again. even if he doesn't say it. Maybe he does now and is being cautious. I don't blame him. I burned him. But I've learned. Boy have I learned. Lisa
