I also always felt my H loved/cared for me more than I did for him. You're right. It does feel safer that way. Unfortunately, though, that made me take his love for granted and he eventually felt I didn't love him at all -- maybe didn't even like him very much. This wasn't true, but if that was the way he felt, it was true for him. It left him "open" for the OW's advances. So I must take some of the blame.
You guys may have hit on something for me, though. I've posted that a couple of times recently I've blown up at my H -- once about a month ago I told him he was being a jerk to the kids when we were on vacation. He gave me a very surprised look and changed his tone immediately. The other time was just last night when I got mad at him about something, and he SMILED at me.
I'm thinking he wants a little of the old wifey back. He doesn't like me catering to him. He told me the other night it was okay for me to get angry with him. Now, I've decided to bring back more of the "old" me, but with all of the improvements I've made.
