I don't think you are cold-you even opened my eyes a little to a different perspective which is a good thing because we can get lost in our own. I do agree if your spouse thinks your living for them that's not going to make you very attractive to them. So funny how things turn around. All our M life I always flet my husband cared more for me-now the tables have turned. Somehow I will get it turned back around. It feels "safer" that way. I guess I have a need to be in control that way. Not that I don't love him-I do, but I also NEVER in a million yrs. would have thought he would have an A. Well, he did. For 2 1/2 yrs before I found out. We were also separated for 6 months. Not good. I was a basket case. I am tired of being a basket case, and I cannot live my life thinking my happiness depends SOLELY on him. Makes me WAY too needy, plus I really don't like myself much like that. I'm changing. Such is life-the only sure thing in it is change. Rachel M.
